…people in [sexual] boxes labeled, “Christian, moral” and “Non-Christian, immoral.”


selfish sex can occur within a marriage, too. Some people firmly believe they have the right to someone else’s body once they are married. Some pastors (ahem) even teach that. I would rather that two unmarried people have sex that honors one another’s autonomy than that two married people treat each other’s bodies with disrespect.


Image source and full article: http://unchainedfaith.com/2013/10/14/the-opposite-of-christian/


when it’s wrong to be right


at the very point of being wrong we often miss the very window out- the possibility that we might not know, because we fear the humiliation of being wrong. She describes that window as “wonder.”


Image source and article: http://deeperstory.com/when-its-wrong-to-be-right/

Rules: Christianity & Buddhism


…if you can’t do it for God’s glory, then don’t do it. We don’t need a list for this. Love God, and as we grow in love for God, we find ourselves knowing what is wrong and right.

Perhaps one of the most uncomfortable parts of Christianity is that Jesus doesn’t give us all the answers.


Image source and article: http://www.wideopenground.com/function-of-rules-in-christianity/



OMG, I totally resonate with this post, especially with this bit:

My evangelical upbringing encouraged so much overshare that I have spent much of the last few years relearning how to draw boundaries and not mistake “I shared this with you” with actual intimacy.

All too often, evangelicalism encourages closeness solely on the basis of a shared faith, without examining whether or not environments are safe to share in or whether or not it is healthy. Indeed, in many spaces, “safety” is actively discouraged, because the person who seeks to be safe is perceived as unwilling to “risk it all” for God.


Image source and article: http://diannaeanderson.net/blog/2013/9/the-need-for-boundaries-false-intimacy-in-the-church

Is morality the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil?


“For a moralistic person, “Thou shalt not steal” just means don’t take anything that obviously belongs to somebody else. For a merciful person, “Thou shalt not steal” means that you chide yourself every time you find out that somebody else needed something that you could have given to them even though there was no moral obligation for you to do so.”

Image source and article: http://morganguyton.wordpress.com/2013/08/13/is-morality-the-fruit-of-the-tree-of-knowledge-of-good-and-evil/

Premarital Sex – Maybe It’s Not So Bad

This is like the married version of the posts I’ve been writing lately:

“The message of the Christian sexual ethic shouldn’t be ‘save sex for marriage and everything will be great,’ because it won’t.”


The problem with evangelical sexual ethics is that we haven’t got any

“Rules without why — rules without a clear ethic guiding them, explaining them, undergirding and supporting them — cannot produce ethical people, only people who are either obedient or disobedient. Such rules may produce compliance, but cannot produce virtue.”