Devon And Jordan’s Wedding Is the Latest Emotional Gay Wedding [VIDEO]

Consider this a palate cleanser from this previous post.

0:46 “I remember all the thoughts that ran through my head when I started to realize that I was gay. I’m not gonna lie they weren’t good thoughts. Why me? What am I going to do? Will anyone love me? I’ll never get married. That’s the one that really hurt – I’ll never get married.”

For the record, as a Christian I don’t see any contradiction between a lovely wedding like this and anything in the Bible. You can read a bit about my views on this here.


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Rules: Christianity & Buddhism

…if you can’t do it for God’s glory, then don’t do it. We don’t need a list for this. Love God, and as we grow in love for God, we find ourselves knowing what is wrong and right.

Perhaps one of the most uncomfortable parts of Christianity is that Jesus doesn’t give us all the answers.


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Should the Church Offer Tough Love or Fierce Love to Queer* people?


OMG, this post just gets better and better the further you read. Highly recommended!

“…love is itself the key to a functional morality—but it must be fierce love—love based on awe, wonder, vulnerable curiosity, and appreciation of the differences of others.

As a Christian, my understanding of morality is shaped by my understanding of holiness, which is to say, my understanding of flourishing human life that honors all creation by always growing more in capacity to love God and love neighbor. Moreover, I believe holiness/flourishing mean that we grow to understand every last enemy is really a neighbor that we simply haven’t had the curiosity to ask their name, and bear wit(h)ness to their life.”

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*Note: Given the title of this post, I want to state again how I am using the word “Queer.” In some uses (like the end of the title of this post, I’m using the term Queer in place of LGBTIQ, as I think it’s a more inclusive single word than “gay” to refer to a range of people with very different experiences. I also use “Queer” as a verb (like in the first word of the title of this series), meaning to show a broader spectrum of perspectives on something, namely to open up space for a multiplicity of particular perspectives, particularly highlighting the experiences of those who are marginalized around sexual orientation. Neither of these uses are intended to co-opt the word Queer by those who identify themselves as queer or gender queer. If my use of this term seems problematic, I’d love to hear about it, as my own use of the term has shifted with time and I use the word queer for myself, along with gay, while also identifying as a cis-gendered male.

John Steinbeck on Falling in Love: A 1958 Letter

I really wish this is the kind of advice that the church would have given me about love so many years ago. This, instead of the really unhelpful, shame-based teaching on purity culture that I got.


“There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.”

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